The dating life in Nigeria has some silent, unwritten rules surrounding it. These are some of those rules.
Illustrative purpose
Life in Lagos can be hard, even for a young, salaried professional.
The long working hours, the endless traffic and the pressure to
keep up appearances in a city that idolises wealth often leave people
exhausted by the weekends, which are packed with lavish weddings and
lengthy church services. They can also make it hard to find love.
Tinder, a dating app where users reject or select potential
partners by swiping left or right, has not proved as popular in Lagos as
it is with time-poor young people elsewhere.
“Friends thought I was insane or looking to be murdered,” says a female lawyer.
For those who dare, men mostly find “runs girls” (aka sugar babies)
looking for rich boyfriends to buy them gifts, or outright prostitutes.
Women find cheating husbands. “The first time I signed up…I saw three guys I knew who were married,” says Efua Oyofo, who runs the blog Dating While Nigerian.
However, many young women in Lagos want to be the “side chick” of a
married man, deeming them more responsible than the single ones.
“It was crazy,” a 26-year-old journalist says, recalling
the sudden attention he got from young women in his office when he wore a
ring on his fourth finger. “They’re more patient,” says Eve, a software developer who prefers older men. “And there’s the money.”
For heterosexuals looking for something serious, megachurches run
singles events. Weddings are also seen as a good place to meet future
spouses.
“Unlike a nightclub it’s actually a fairly well-lit event, so there’s a sense you can survey the market,” says Ore Disu, who runs Nsibidi Institute, a think-tank. However, many women worry that nuptials are frequented by “Yoruba demons”,
stereotypically promiscuous young men from south-west Nigeria. Gay
Nigerians, most of whom are in the closet, tend to meet at private
parties.
Whereas ethnicity is less of a barrier to love in Nigeria’s
cosmopolitan commercial capital, Christian-Muslim unions are still
frowned upon. Parents also put pressure on their children to find a
partner, inviting men over for dinner or sending women to meet their
sons.
For many young people the only way to date is to find someone who
lives and works nearby—and spend time together during the long commute.
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Via The Economist
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